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Why Did the Wedding Bouquet/Garter Toss Tradition Get Started?

We all have traditions that our families do and don't do. For weddings, there seems to be A LOT of different ones that seem to come back to trends. We will be breaking down one tradition of tossing the bride's flowers and garter.

One question that seems to be popular is who started the tradition of throwing the bouquet and garter at weddings?!

Hundreds of years ago from England, it was thought to be "good luck" to touch the bride. The guests would typically stand around her in an attempt to rip the gown off! (Uh, no thanks!) In order to get the guests away, the bride began tossing their bouquets into the crowds to distract them, then running away. People just wanted pieces of the bride’s accessories because she was married.

Guests were naturally thrilled to grab the flowers, since they, too, were thought to bring romantic luck for the future.

Tossing the wedding garter is an old time held tradition also. It is said that in the days past, the bride and groom had to show "proof" of their wedding consummation. In order for it to be proven, it was common tradition to have people like family and friends come into the room with the couple.

Over the years, this act of distraction has turned into a tradition meant for the bride to pass on her good fortune to one single lady. Whoever catches the bouquet at a wedding is thought to be the next lady in line to get married. Unlike medieval times, today the bride doesn’t have to run away, but in that moment for her ability to unknowingly choose who will follow in her footsteps next, while the guests now respect the beauty of the bride and her gown.

Although not an accurate measure of a future wedding, the act of actually taking the garter off the bride has become a form of entertainment for the married couple and guests.

There are many brides who are abandoning this tradition as it may offend young women who are not married. One alternative is to award the bouquet to the lady who has been married the longest.

Whatever your choice for these traditions, they are a fun part of the wedding celebration!